I have withdrawn yesterday's post, entitled "Candid". Some of you have read it, some of you have not.
I got quite a few emails about it, all from women. Some were sympathetic. For others, it's obvious that I touched a raw wound.
What surprised me is that all seemed to consider it was a matter of time before I put my hands on TLM. Have y'all miss the crucial line where I said he was not interested? I'm flattered that you seem to think I can turn a not-interested man into an interested one but frankly that's some magic I've never been able to achieve.
Anyway, it was an experience seeing the flaming emotions I provoked. However, I think it's hard enough to handle emotionally on my side without having to deal with other people's emotions about it, which is why, in the end, I removed it.
For those who missed it, TLM is the uninterested, unavailable, Man In My Thoughts. Alanis Morissette says it perfectly:
" It's meeting the man of my dreams
And then meeting his beautiful wife
And isn't it ironic... don't you think "
I guess next time I'll stay on safer, less controversial and passionate topics. I'm thinking religion perhaps.
Later folks. And thanks for the supportive messages I got.
Good Lord... You erased it...
ReplyDeleteYour message was long and nice and carefully read Angel :) Overall I rather agree with you.
ReplyDeleteAnd it's not erased. Just withdrawn.
Okay then...
ReplyDeleteYou know what? There are far too many women on Earth!! Let's try another planet!! Are you in for a trip to Venus??!! :-)
And people are CRAZY to get married...It just get so complicated afterwards.
I really liked the quote from A.Morissette's song, but maybe, just maybe the perfect wife is not even that beautiful!
Hey, I was married myself once :) It's part of the human experience, I'd never call it crazy. As for Venus, it's a bit far...how about Vancouver?
ReplyDeleteYeah...Vancouver!! Au hasard bien sûr!! lol ;-))
ReplyDeleteVancouver!!...Yeaaahhh...Let's go!! Au hasard, of course!! lol ;-)
ReplyDeleteDamn! I missed a post. That'll teach me to pay more attention to my knitting than to you... ;o)
ReplyDeleteBonne semaine, B! xo
All right, as for me, I didn't miss it, but did not comment because:
ReplyDeleteA - I had no time to sit and think before I wrote; and
B - I usually avoid getting involved in "loaded" discussions...
As it turns out, it got a little too "loaded" for you too... ;-) Oh well, so now I can express myself.
My views on the matter are, as always, that one should live in such a way that when his/her actions are exposed to the world, they don't have to feel shame.
Not that the outside world should ever dictate our actions or our own morals. But it so happens that we define ourselves according to outside values, being sociable animals.
So anything that passes that test should be peachy.
For me, in the end the question isn't really "Should I do it?" but rather do I want to be "the person who did it" for the rest of my life?
If that'll bring more good than bad, and for BOTH parties, and for more than a few fleeting months/years, I guess hunting on private territory would be ok by me, especially knowing how bad us human beings are at choosing who we want to spend the rest of a very long time with.
We've all made bad mistakes at it, and we can assume "they" have too. BUT, and those were capital letters, that hunting cannot be disruptive, it has to be constructive.
No tearing apart relationships that work, no breaking hearts, no cheating and no ambiguous temporary stuff. It all has to be on the table, and it has to be over before it starts again. Pas de charue avant les boeufs. Et pas de charue... pas de charue.
Moi personnellement je pense. ;-)
PS Now as for choosing someone who's not interested, that's silly. How could they be the one if they're not interested? Unless we want to use them as toys, there needs to be a bilateral spark for it to mean anything, right? So it's like seeing a beautiful dress in a store and really wanting it even though we know, sorry, you know (I've never bought a dress) that its colour just won't look good on you, period.
Instead of wanting that one that you can buy but not wear, why not wait and look for another that'll be as pretty but fit you like a glove? And with a bit of luck, it'll be on special and machine-washable! ;-)
Wowwww...Sigrid, the guy kills me!! As usual...;-)
ReplyDeleteWell, the Vince, he doesn't speak often but when he does... :)
ReplyDeleteBrother, I just think you should buy dresses more often.
I wish I could be as wise and in control and cool as you say. You know, make the right choices, decide with my head what color suits me or not. I'm not that wise, and cool and in control yet. Gosh, SO not wise and cool.
I think you're just A WOMAN!!! That makes the whole difference!!
ReplyDeleteWhoa! Who ever said I was wise and in control and cool? well, I am, but that's beside the point... ;-)
ReplyDeleteThe bottom line is we dictate best what we most need to learn... All that is pretty easy for me to say while I'm safe at home. But when I get to the store and the dresses jump at me, then it's another story.
Any way, the point I was trying to make (and that one, yes, I do manage to apply on a regular basis ;-) is that a crush is just that. One deals with it just like with the temptation to buy a red Ferrari. It's about one's unrealistic needs only, and it never will be more than a one way street; you can drive a Ferrari but it just won't become interested in driving you ;-)
So maybe in the end the thought and the unfulfilled need is all we are seeking. Maybe they are meant to keep us motivated and passionate. Maybe they aren't meant to be persued any further than in our own imagination.
Amen.
PS Hi NYA :-)